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The Conclusion of Online Dating Negativity

First I want to say, I learned a lot about myself with this project. At first I thought online dating was negative for my own opinionated reasoning, and the fake profiling, but in terms of fake profile,

1) Know who you’re talking to online

Some people join online dating sites as someone else, or just joke around. The example the guy from anonymous who humiliated that guy in NY,  there’s ways to find out if who he was talking to was real. Call the person, ask for some a lot of specificity. You’d rather not end up looking like the guys on MTV Catfish.

2) Be careful of who you talk to.

There’s no background checks on dating websites, so the person your talking to could be a criminal, or a sex offender.

Here’s a case where that happened

Fake profiling is part of the stigma that online dating gets and if we could get some awareness of safety  then online dating could a lot safer and thought of a bit more positively.

Now Stigma is another thing. There’s a few points I want to make about that.

1) Online dating isn’t for everyone,

A lot of people have their own opinions of online dating.  Examples like thinking that the people on there might be socially awkward, to whether they believe it’s better to offline, or etc. You shouldn’t bash on someone, who is using it. Lets say my professor likes to golf, and I don’t like to for my own reasons. I shouldn’t make fun of him, or be condescending towards him for playing it.  on someone who’s using it. On a positive note. From the research site Pew, Online dating is being more acceptable to people , who know someone that actually use it , who don’t prefer it.

Remember this video I showed?

2) Based on Pews research, Young people (ages 18-25) are more likely to experience the stigma

This age group isn’t as accepting of online dating as older age groups.   It has a lot to do with maturity, opinions, rumors, and as stated before, fake profiling.  On Pew’s research page, it showed that this age group is more likely to have bad experiences with online dating, and it goes with maturity. On the male side, we may harass people online, and the female group is more likely to raise their standards with all the attention they get.

Remember this guy who did research from the mordernman.com?

It make sense for an older age group to have positive outcomes since they’re more mature and, there isn’t as much fake profiling.  Pew’s research shows that ages 18-25 use online dating to just flirt, but that’s more so with mobile dating apps like tinder.

To conclude, the only real negatives of online dating is fake profiling and the bad stigma it has. Like I said for fake profiling just know who you’re talking and be careful of who you talk to, and for stigma as more people accept what it it the stigma will go, but if you’re in the 18-25 year old age group then you’ll experience it more, but you shouldn’t let it defer you from trying it.

If you want to know surf like demographics and successes you can check out the research on pew’s website

http://www.pewinternet.org/2013/10/21/part-3-the-broader-online-environment-around-dating-and-relationships/

Men that have trouble with women, or want tips, check out this site

http://store.themodernman.com/secrets.html

 

 

 

Online Dating Translations

source I thought I would share this article from Thought Catalog with you this morning– With this project I’m really trying to capture to social implications of online dating as well. With that comes public opinions, thoughts and issues with online dating. Although this article was, I’m sure, written partially for entertainment purposes, it brings up […]

Tinder- Mr. Swipe Right

source When looking at online dating in its entirety, its only right to include the new up and coming phone app called Tinder. Tinder – #ItStartsHere from Tinder on Vimeo. When: Launched September 15, 2012 How it works: You download the app and create a profile connected through your Facebook account. Once registered, you can choose up […]

Online Dating: the Movie List

Last night the group researching online dating sites did an excellent job taking us through that world. In particular, they referenced an early computer dating service started by three Harvard graduates in the mid-1960s called Operation Match. To quote the 1965 Crimson Tide article about the service:

18s41aah4eoanjpgThey were aware that computers had been used to match people at special mixers and they knew that some companies in Europe were making a sizable profit from arranging compatible marriages through various technological means. “But what we wanted was something more permanent than a mixer, and more fun than a marriage bureau,” a member of the group recalls.

In the course of the conversation, the idea of a computerized datefinding service evolved. The idea excited Tarr, and with the help of Morrill, he went out to see what might be done about it. Dean Munro, a few lawyers and certain technicians at a computer firm all assured Tarr that the idea was feasible.

Using computer-generated data to connect people is not necessarily new, as this group pointed out, but the web brought it to a another level. During the course of their presentation they shared this 2009 or 2010 infographic about the online dating industry that has a ton of interesting facts. For example, 40 million people in the U.S. use online dating annually. That number in China is 140 million people. EHarmony claims 236 members are married each day. Etc.

The group is working on a timeline that will link back to their blog posts and provide a distributed history of online dating as their final project. Lauren Brumfield and Eun Jung Kim have been doing a fine job blogging their research thus far, and I am really enjoying their findings. Lauren even kicked off her research with a shout out to Meg Ryan in the 1998 film You’ve Got Mail. Which got me thinking during class last night, is there a top ten list of films with an online dating theme? Of course there is, this is the web after all!

So, here they are copied directly from this post on Yahoo!.

And no matter if you’re a fan of online dating or the whole thing creeps you out, these 10 films are sure to entertain.

  • Because I Said So: Diane Keaton plays Mandy Moore’s overbearing mother who is terrified her daughter will never have a healthy relationship. Diane realizes she might just be looking for some love and checks things out onlineWhat to Take Away: It’s never too late to find love.
  • Catfish: This startling movie is under the radar, but forces us to ask some very serious questions. It’s a documentary based on a NY boy’s online relationship with a beautiful girl who lives on a Michigan farm. What to Take Away: Ask yourself how well you really know someone you meet online. How much stock can you put in a relationship that takes place solely through technology?
  • Eurotrip: In this goofy and screwball comedy, a group of friends graduate from high school and take the ultimate overseas adventure to meet up with a gorgeous German girl he meets online. What to Take Away: Sometimes going the distance and being spontaneous is totally worth it.
  • Hard Candy: Ellen Page is a girl on a serious mission in this crazy thriller. After she develops a relationship with a dude she believes to be a pedophile, she attempts to bring him down. What to Take Away: Things are not always what they appear to be.
  • Napoleon Dynamite: It’s not Napoleon who finds love online. It’s his awesome brother Kipp who finds love online with LaFawnduh Lucas, who travels by bus to meet Kipp in person. What to Take Away: Everyone can find love. And I mean everyone.
  • LOL: Whether it’s through text, email, or online dating, this movie is a strangely accurate portrayal of the role technology plays in our relationships. What to Take Away: How much do you really depend on technology instead of face-to-face interaction
  • Must Love Dogs: After her sister puts her profile on PerfectMatch.com, Diane Lane goes on some outrageous dates before meeting someone great, who must love dogs, like John Cusack. What to Take Away: Despite the loads of crazy dates you may go on, it’s important to stick it out and keep trying.
  • Sex Drive: Josh Zuckerman plays a shy 18-year-old virgin who steals his brother’s car and goes on a cross-country trip with his two best friends in order to hook up with a girl he meets online. What to Take Away: Sometimes you need to go the distance to appreciate what’s been in front of you all along.
  • The Lionshare: After meeting on OkCupid, Matt and Jane decide to meet in person. After their first date, Jane invites Matty to her house and to her favorite BitTorrent site, The Lionshare. What to Take Away: All first dates may be a tad awkward, but you can’t push a true connection.
  • You’ve Got Mail: The quintessential online dating movie. This one dates back all the way to 1998. Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks meet in an AOL chat room and the rest is history. If you’re looking for an easy, breezy, and sweet romantic comedy, check this one out immediately. What to Take Away: Don’t judge a book by its cover – or reputation!

What’s not to love about the internet? If you will it, it is no dream!

Online dating. Find it in just one click?

Personally, I don’t see anything with online dating, it’s not something I would do but I don’t see a problem for people who do. I just feel that when you do try to do online dating you should probably be a little more cautious of who you are talking to, just like when you are in public you should be aware of your surroundings, the only difference between the two is you are doing the same thing online. People can be whoever they want to be online, but sometimes it is easier to make a connection with someone online. Online dating is kind of cool in a way because you can narrow your choices by picking qualities in a person that you like, but then again it could probably screw you over because you could say you are looking for a certain type of person and you like doing certain things, and someone who finds you attractive may just ”pretend” to like the things that you like or be this person you are in search of. The con sometimes though is that although you can choose who you want online by saying what exactly you are looking for (your matches) you could be missing out on someone who could be perfect for you but you just want a specific person.

I think the sex offender statistics were kind of scary, but you could meet a sex offender in person as well so regardless, like I stated earlier you just have to be cautious about who you get involved with. We also have brought up CATFISH a couple of times, you never really know who is behind the computer screen until you actually meet them in person.

Shopping for your Date Online

Okay so I’m completely for online dating and believe that it can be successful, but I don’t believe one should jump onto the internet with the intent to find love. To use me and John as an example again, we met through Tumblr, a site where very rarely people are there to find their mates; they’re there to share their interests with others and sometimes make friends along the way. The fact that you actually end up finding your soulmate on the site is a bonus. I believe that both parties should actually be taking the time to be friends with one another so there’s a bit more of a connection before immediately diving into the “will you date me?” stage. When people pursue online speed dating like match.com or eharmony, I sort of see it like online shopping.

#OnlineDating

online-dating-statistics

This info graphic was presented in class today and I thought it was fascinating.

The pros and cons of online dating were discussed and the arguments can differ from person to person. Pros were easy to spit out by the group presenting however, the cons seemed hard to come by. What does this mean? Is our future of relationships going to be dominated by a computer screen in front of our eyes or even our mobile devices? Guess only time will tell.

Four words: Forever alone flash-mob…

“Online-dating is like shopping.” – Jim. lol made me chuckle

 

A couple sites you should check out

source Speaking of pros for online dating… ONE “Dating online is just like shopping online: its crazy efficient.” -Micah Abrams I want to focus this post primarily on arguments that support online dating. Micah Abrams, a true advocate, wrote a post entitled “Online dating works great, you’re just doing it wrong” in response to CNN […]